I’m one of the admins on the Facebook group, and I didn’t notice a lot of that behavior in the group, either. There were definitely posts that sounded frustrated or upset on both sides, but there was very, very little I’d classify as “fairly harsh words.” Overall people were assertive and direct. I shut it down more because it was completely going in circles in a way that was becoming hurtful to people of many perspectives than because of anything anybody in particular was saying.