Reply To: [TW: rape] Helping Sea Monkeys with triggers (at karaoke and otherwise), was: JCCC4 Post-Mortem
@everyone: I posted earlier that I’d revised the wording of the thread title, but I was vague about my specific emendations. In brief, it was helpful to me to be reminded that “offense”, a word I’d ignorantly chosen in hopes it was neutral, is sadly inadequate to describe the effects of a triggering experience. I’m posting this because I do like to be transparent but also because perhaps it will help others avoid making the same mistake I’ve made.
@Icemage: I believe I said this in person on the boat, but I thought you gave a fantastic performance at karaoke, and I enjoyed your rendition far more than the original. Y’know, for what that’s worth, at this point. 🙂 This must’ve been hard for you, I know, and I wanted to thank you for stopping by — I appreciated your input.
On the subject of trust and welcoming: as a person in this community, I am sorry for anything that happens in this community that makes anyone feel unwelcome. I know I have a long way to go; I am trying my best, and I am gladdened by those I see around me who are likewise trying their best.
But at the same time, with admin hat on, I don’t want to pursue this line of thought too far, in this particular thread, right now. I don’t want to silence anyone, and I’m glad the topic’s been broached, and I hope we continue to think about it, but I fear we’re drifting away from what this thread was meant to discuss.
(With admin hat back off, let me also say that I am not the most perceptive when it comes to group dynamics, and so I have not personally noticed a lot of the behavior that @SapphireMind describes; I’m also not on the Facebook group, which may/may not be where much of the behavior occurred, I’m not sure. I want to be enlightened, but I think that’s a bigger discussion, and I don’t want it to overshadow this one.)